do you find any hostility or resentment arrising from this game?

I have played this before with the kids at our church & they love it!

I think I'd feel rejected if someone said ' No, I do not' when they're asked about me.

this sounds like a good game, except I don't really understand it.

This doesn't make any sense at all! And it seems a little mean.

The kids loved this one, but we did break a chair! Our kids understood that we aren't really commenting about our neighbor, it's just a reason to involve everyone.

im sorry but i think i missed something..! what happens when the starter says " yes but i also love the blond person..(4 example)"??? do u mean that it's the blond girl's turn now?? and are ALL the players the ASKERs?!?!

im sorry but i think i missed something..! what happens when the starter says " yes but i also love the blond person..(4 example)"??? do u mean that it's the blond girl's turn now?? and are ALL the players the ASKERs?!?!

This is a really fun game but we play it a little different.

I lead a youth group for high school and Junior high school. We do play it a little differently; we have a group of kids in a circle and have one person in the middle. The person in the middle walks up to one person and says do you love you neighbor and if they say yes, they say "except for the people who have brown hair" or "except for the people who have jeans on" or "except for the people who have a certain quality or thing. Then the people with that quality have to get up and find a new seat while the person in the middle tries to steal their seat. The person who doesn't get a seat is the one in the middle. If the person says no then the two people on either side of them have to switch seats while the person in the middle try and steal their seat. Another rule we had is you can't single people out, like you can't say "Yes except for anyone who has the name that starts with a M and ends with a alory." The kids seem to single out their friends. We played this with a group of 30 or 40 people and they had a lot of fun. It was CRAZY!!

Malory, I like the way you play it. Think we will give it a try at youth group this week. I too worry the other way would hurt feelings, that is the last thing we want to do! :D

Yea Malory your way sounds much better.

This game is exactly like "upset the apple cart" which is when everyone but one person sits in a circle (in chairs). The one in the middle (unlike the whole "do you love me" kind of idea) just says something like "My name is Lauren and I have a big brother" and then everyone who also has a big brother gets up, runs to a new set (not the one they were in or the one next to it), including the person who was in the middle and the last one with out a seat is "it" and then says something like "I'm Bob and I have on jeans" and the games keeps going. If someone who's out says their name but then says "upset the apple cart" instead of a quality about themselves, then everyone has to get up and run to a new seat.

We played a similar game called "The Sun Shines" and the person in the middle will say..."The Sun Shines on anyone who is wearing jeans, or brushed their teeth this morning, etc. Students will get up and move to another seat that's not the adjacent seat to their left or right. The person without a seat would stand in the middle and give their name. Everyone would tap their thighs twice, clap their hands twice, snap their fingers twice and point to the person in the middle and say his/her name. A great way to try and remember everyone's name. The kids love it, even try to be in the middle. Always try to have someone new in the middle. If a person is in the middle again, they can pick someone who hasn't been in the middle. Once everyone has a turn to be in the middle, they continue until they're done playing.